My Surreal Life

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Category Archives: Personal

Grief, Loss and StepChildren

When I met my husband he was already a StepDad to BMs eldest daughter. He had met BM a little while after SD16 was born and was in her life … Continue reading

September 24, 2013 · 2 Comments

What’s in a name?

A name is defined as A word or set of words by which a person, animal, place, or thing is known, addressed, or referred to. (n) When a child is … Continue reading

August 15, 2013 · 1 Comment

Falling in to My World

    So this really used to be my attitude with BM….. She wanted nothing to do with me, so to me, I really didn’t want any sort of interaction … Continue reading

July 18, 2013 · 1 Comment

While I Wait…..

I’ve cried so many times since I’ve been admitted to hospital, at this point its out of sheer frustration. I don’t do well with all this waiting, results are good, … Continue reading

May 4, 2013 · Leave a comment

The Harsh Lonliness of Being A StepMom

I’m not being ungrateful and I love being a StepMom but there are some very evident times when being a StepMom is the loneliest role in the world. As I … Continue reading

May 1, 2013 · 5 Comments

Letting Go of Guilt

I have an immense amount of Step-Mother guilt. It stems from my ideas of perfection, the role I should play, the role I can play and ultimately trying to define … Continue reading

April 4, 2013 · Leave a comment

An Irrational Sense of Entitlement

I had a very interesting discussion with TwitterStepMoms today about a Mothers sense of “entitlement”, and the difference between those who are Moms without divorce/relationship breakdown and those who go … Continue reading

March 24, 2013 · 2 Comments

Community Spirit

Not so long ago I returned to Twitter, after an active spell in 2008/2009 and a short break, I returned not really having any interest in anything. There are very … Continue reading

March 10, 2013 · Leave a comment

To Build or Not to Build a Relationship with BioMom

Possibly one of the hardest decisions to make and one which maybe totally out out of your control…. Do you have a relationship with BioMom? Do you want a relationship … Continue reading

January 29, 2013 · Leave a comment

Why I Need To Recover – My Story

I’ve often tried to “recover”, although I’ve still to really understand what it really means. Does it mean never engaging in destructive behaviour again? Does it mean never having another … Continue reading

January 9, 2013 · Leave a comment

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